Lost in Fraught

Handling work and holidays leaving you “lost in fraught” lately?

It’s an expression that resonates deeply with us as entrepreneurs.

We often find ourselves tangled in the complexities of our daily grind, from managing cash flow to leading teams, juggling family dynamics, and everything else in between.

We’re often bombarded with problems that demand our attention and energy, pulling us in a hundred different directions. The holidays sometimes add a little more angst.

The key to navigating this seasonal maze isn’t just about finding solutions; it’s about mastering the art of staying true to who we really want to be.

It’s easy to get swept up in the family drama & chaos, and it’s vital to step back and ask:

“What kind of leader do I want to be?”

This simple yet powerful question can guide us through the toughest of times.

It’s about anchoring ourselves in what truly matters and who we really want to “be”, especially when the going gets tough.

This brings us to an insightful tool from Dr. Maria Nemeth: the “23 qualities of being.”

These qualities are not just traits; they represent the contributions we aim to make to the world.

Let me guide you through them:

1. Alert: Vigilant and keenly aware.
2. Appreciative: Grateful and recognizing value.
3. Attentive: Considerate and observant.
4. Clear: Lucid and understandable.
5. Compassionate: Empathetic and understanding.
6. Courageous: Brave with strength of character.
7. Creative: Innovative and original.
8. Empowering: Encouraging others’ confidence.
9. Enthusiastic: Intensely interested and eager.
10. Flexible: Adaptable and open to change.
11. Focused: Concentrated on specific goals.
12. Generous: Willing to give abundantly.
13. Gentle: Mild and tender.
14. Grateful: Thankful and appreciative.
15. Joyous: Full of happiness and pleasure.
16. Kind: Friendly and considerate.
17. Loving: Affectionate and caring.
18. Open: Receptive to new ideas.
19. Present: Fully in the moment.
20. Receptive: Open to suggestions and ideas.
21. Supportive: Providing encouragement.
22. Truthful: Honest and open.
23. Vulnerable: Open to emotional risks.

When facing a challenge, ask yourself, “Which of these qualities can guide me now?”

Who am I willing to be?

It’s about choosing to being, for example, ‘compassionate’ rather than just acting compassionately.

Rilke said,

“Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.”

It’s a powerful reminder that our experiences, whether good or bad, are transient.

Tools like the 23 Qualities of Being evoke awareness and mindfulness.

Mindfulness is the gateway to mastering our thoughts. By being mindful, we can catch ourselves when we start drifting into fraught and gently guide our minds back to a place of clarity and purpose.

And now, a step-by-step guide to help you navigate through fraught:

1. Recognize the Fraught: Identify when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
2. Reflect on Qualities of Being: Which qualities resonate with your current challenge?
3. Apply the Qualities: How can these qualities influence your response?
4. Take Action: Implement your reflections in practical ways.

Embracing these qualities and insights from mindfulness philosophy can transform the way we approach our entrepreneurial challenges.

It’s about finding your true self—who we truly want to be—rather than getting lost in fraught.

It’s about being mindful of who we are and who we aspire to be in every moment, especially when the waters get rough.

Keep shining.

Warmest regards,
Kalika Yap